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WCW, I never would have thought just touching her arm would be construed as attempting sex. But, I guess when she is feeling like this ??? It was while we were sleeping, I put my arm up and it landed on hers. No intent on sex by me... Why so hypersensitive ?

The son was at a friends house overnight last night. So W and I sat alone and watched TV last night. She speaks to me but, conversations are short. She had all night to bring up Divorce talk as we were alone. Nothing was spoken...
If she is so miserable, why doesn't she file for it ? She was ready two nights ago ?

When we were talking about telling the S-11, the night I touched her arm, she felt WE should say that WE couldn't work this out. I said NO, I want to be married, I want to work this out. I won't lie to him. She said so you want ME to be the bad guy... Then she said, there you go it's all about you again.

It's like she is wanting me to give up and take the first steps toward it...

Thanks Kerry , I'll do some reading today. I'm rereading Div Remedy as well.

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Do I remember right that your W had a hysterectomy (at your insistence)? Please believe me her whole body and hormones are in a big state of change.


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No, she has a prolapsed Uterus that causes occasional pain/problems.


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ral, the problem wasn't that you touched her! It was your reaction to her reaction.

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Your right VH, Another hard lesson learned. Because of it, she isn't wearing her ring. Most likely to irritate me. Possibly she doesn't want to acknowledge what it symbolizes. Or both...


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She could well be looking for a reaction. Don't give her one. Don't even notice!

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I'll bet the only time it gets put back on, is if her parents come over. To put it on would only appear that she's given in to something. Once she has made this statement, she won't back down...


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Water off a ducks back, Ral, forget about the ring.


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So far it's been good between W and I. We talk (small talk). There is nothing extra from her...I was hoping for some light to peak through the clouds I guess. I'm staying the course Jack. No slip ups or backslides.


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Ral,

No expectations, you might not see light for many many months.
No light after 16 months, stay the course.This takes time.Love her regardless.


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