Go ahead with your plans. Lie is short damn it, dont waste it!!
Interesting statement Kalni.....hmmmmmm......
BBJ, sorry I am late on this, but from an experienced person on the matter of the kids stuff I would say make sure you allow them to pick out a couple of the things on their own to take to dads place. You may not know what is in their minds that they "need" at dads so please ask them.
I think in reading through your stuff I keep asking myself why you are engaging him so much? Seems to me you might just need to keep quiet a bit and stop talking so much. These things will fall into place, you don't have to force anything.
Your mom, is normal. She is being protective of her child. It is not her dislike for him, it is her love for you that has her speaking this way... take it with a grain of salt.
