I read lots of these posts where couples are in crisis, separated or even divorced and they still manage to do family things which must be so fantastic for kids. Must make them feel that they still have some semblance of family security. That mum and dad are able to put crap aside and focus on their needs.
In my sitch there is no way H would do family stuff. I dont believe he would no more suggest dinner or outing as a family than fly. I used to often ask him but in last few months he either refused or laughed and said NO. He did want xmas but that was because it suited his plans .
It does not bother me except for when i hear others doing family stuff. I think then we are doing our kids a real disservice and making this separation even harder for them.
Both H and i come from very steady still married parents and grandparents ( although died - they never divorced ) no one in our families can tell us how our kids might be feeling or how to help them through this . We all know that they will be hurt for their entire lives in some way but I want that minimised.
