I can relate 100%

OM in another state, but I do not have similar comfort about that as you appear. He visits this state often enough, and wife had been deceptive enough that I find myself constantly consumed with 'when is he coming next?'

I have ALL his contact info and its really difficult to not use it. What would I gain from using it? Thats arguable.

I did approach this OM months ago and respectfully asked him..man to man...to leave my lady alone & respect me and my attempts to save my family. Clearly he had other things in mind and I now have a level of hate for another human I have never had in my life. I have had many disturbing daydreams of the horrible things I would like to see happen to him.

That alone is a terrible burden and I cannot wait to finally be free of all the paranoid and evil thoughts I have rolling around in my mind


Me: 37
Wife: 40
Son: 7yo
Son: 18 mo
Bomb: 12/31/07
Status: Reconciled 1/2009 but backsliding terribly right now