I understand about the winter thing. Am feeling a bit thoughtful myself - thinking about the events that happened a year ago. In our case, though, there was OM.
I wonder if pretending like you don't regret things is for the best. I don't know and would be curious what others think. It drives me crazy not knowing how XW really feels - I don't understand why all she ever said was that she wasn't very good at talking about her feelings. So I feel like I never heard what the problems were or how she felt about things.
That said, she did send me a letter at christmas saying she wanted me to know that she thought of me and hoped we could be friends in the future. I didn't take that letter in the way she probably wanted it to be read. I felt frustrated, thought "why this now, why didn't you try when it mattered?" Not that she was wanting to revisit the R, but I think when there aren't children, it's too hard to try to be friends.
So I guess what I'm saying is that it might be better for you to write the letter for yourself but don't send it. Ask DanceQueen - she posted about a letter she sent in order to help herself move on. I tried to do a search but it didn't show up.
