My husband of 17 years admitted last month that he had a brief affair 14 months prior. He wanted to tell me shortly after it ended, but my mother unexpectedly passed away. Meanwhile, I sought counseling for my grief and worked through other issues I discovered had been getting in the way of our marriage. I thought our marriage was back on track and then learned about the affair. I think I'm actually doing pretty well and we have begun counseling which is great. I am back on the road to trusting him again. However, I found myself obsessed with the OW. She lives in a different state, so chances of contact are minimal. But, I find myself wanting to contact her to let her know that I know. What on earth would I gain by doing this? There is probably nothing healthy in doing so. Do I just want an apology from her? It's not like that is going to happen. Do I want to let her know so maybe she suffers, too? I doubt that will happen either. Has anyone else had these feelings?
