My new job is going GREAT. I couldn't ask for better people with whom to work or better bosses for whom to work. The latter have been very understanding of my marital stuff and when some minor health issues cropped up (I passed out at home and was carted away via ambulance - after two CT's, an MRI, blood tests, and an EEG, diagnosis was a massive migraine attack), they were there for me. The students love me, and parents have been singing my praises to the superintendent. It's nice to genuinely look forward to work each day and actually miss it during long breaks. I feel blessed to do something I love, that I'm good at, and that more than pays the bills.
Home stuff? I signed the separation agreement before Christmas and it's actually pretty fair. Now, the ball is in STBXW's court, and, surprisingly, she's been the one who is dragging her feet on signing and filing. I've learned how to run the house, deal with all the stuff financially and maintenance-wise (instead of calling an expensive pro). I have my legal and financial ducks in a row and am set for my new life.
STBXW has her new life stuff happening too, as she closed her salon and now works with & for her bf at MetLife. We're amicable (she even hung with me for hours when I was in the ER), but she is completely different than the woman I knew for 20 years. Even the kids have noticed it.
Speaking of the kids, they seem to have adjusted fine. Since I have the kids after school and every other weekend, I'm the one who deals with homework, piano lessons (and making the kid practice), scouting stuff, etc. Heck, I even got roped into running the software for the Pinewood Derby last weekend. The scouts are as bad as the Mafia... every time I think I'm out they pull me back in (ironic, since I was never a scout myself).
I've reclaimed something of a social life. I go out on my biweekly "non-parenting" weekends, seeing bands, going to parties, hanging with friends, hanging with my Fraternal brethren. I'm neither actively seeking dates nor actively opposed to dating. I go out, and my attitude is, if I meet someone, great. If not, fine, as long as I had a good time either way. Living in a college town in which the majority of the students are female does not suck. I've made lot of new friends and positive casual acquaintances. It's fun to have a social life again.
I still go to my therapist, who is awesome. I figure that as I transition into each phase of my new life, I'm gonna need her as a sober, objective voice of reason. She's been a HUGE help so far.
Well, that's me. How's stuff with you?
Me: 47 Kids: 2 boys, 14 & 8 Bomb: 5/5/08 Married: 16 years, together 20 Divorce final 8/11/10 I remarried, to an amazing woman: 3/17/12... "Once in awhile, in an ordinary life, love gives us a fairy tale"
