Trying to hammer thru issues with H, it's like trying to crack concrete with a plastic bat.
My work party is tonight, and another social party an hour away. I receive a 30 year service award for work. H says he is coming with me to my work party and then we're going to the other party together.
Forward steps? yes, it is. H has stayed clear of any kind of party stuff with me for a couple of years. This is a recent change that we go places together.
Is it enough yet? No.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.