Life in the Rough - Practice That Swing!

[kelaaron]

Morning Hope. On like my 10th cup of coffee trying to catch up with everyone.

Ok don't worry about getting back to me on the stuff, just help our friend, be there when she needs it. You know what I mean. I'm gonna kidnap her one of these days. LOL...

Ok on the OW front, here is my thoughts, not gonna be of popular opinion but... We dont' have a clue what the H's have told them. We don't know what the OW intentions are or the H's and know what, they probably don't either. I will tell you from my own experience, a "friend" of ours spilled his guts to me for years about his W. About their sex life, their personal life and what not. Boy did I feel sorry for him. Guess what, his whole intention was to get into my pants. He didn't care what he was doing. If I had been a different person, M or not, who knows what would have happened. If I wanted to now I could still have a little "fun" and what would it hurt? So please understand what I say here. It is not all the OP fault. It just isn't. I posted a while back about what I learned from the OW in my sitch. Yes I learned and yes it hurt. And YES it is much easier to blame them than STBXH. But I have to look at them too and say I don't know what he was looking for or needing. I dont' know what he told them. I just don't know but at that point in time, they did provide SOMETHING to him that I either wasn't or couldn't and they were there for him to fill whatever need he was having. So I can and will only hold them as responsible as I hold STBXH and self.

I can also understand how it can happen. You aren't looking for it usually, but you find a friend, and your heart sort of steps in sometimes. Sorry for the defense of the OP but been on both sides and just know the truth of it.