Can't really ignore the knucklehead T. Not yet. We have to tell the kids the news and set up a visitation schedule, agree to the financial arrangements,etc.
Then once we have our plan in place, I can ignore him
Last night was typical. He came to see the kids and fell asleep in their room when he put them to bed. The only reason I told him he could come over is b/c we were supposed to set up the financials, go over our terms, and review what we are telling the kids, once the kids went to bed.
I was so pissed. I went in and thumped him twice. Then at midnight I just gave up and went to bed. He came in and started his whole pitiful (not) song and dance routine all over again! He doesn't want to do any of this, he doesn't want this. He doesn't even want the house.
He said, when I think of the house I think of it like I could fix it really nice and we could all live in it together. Or I think I could fix it up and then rent it out. Pretty much I think of any other reason to have it than the reason it is supposed to be, for me to live and have the kids come over.
He said he is 'stuck', he doesnt want divorce, he wants us to live together and be a family. But he can't figure out how to make that happen b/c he can't figure out how to let the past go, yada yada yada. I have heard most of it before...
I just told him I would never ever again beg for him to come home. That his words say he is confused but his actions are that he went and put a bid on that house not once but twice. And he doesn't live in our home anymore. So all I can go by are his actions, it doesn't matter if he says he doesn't want to do it b/c he keeps on DOING it anyway...
Oh and I told him I already knew I would get married again one day b/c I was meant to be married. He said he hasn't allowed himself to think about that. Too bad...
Grr. So I went to bed at 1:30 and I am sooo tired. I told him how disappointing it is that he has time to help his parents, do his job, work on his cows but not time to work out how to talk to his children about the fact that he doesn't live here anymore.
He said when I emailed him the list I made on Tuesday(financial arrangements, how to divide payments, etc) it made him wonder--if he wanted this then why hadn't he been able to make lists and plans like I had?
Anyway guess it just means I will most likely have to tell the kids on my own and make all the arrangements on my own. I am tired of the foot dragging and want to move on with my life.
He doesn't want to do any of this, he doesn't want this. He doesn't even want the house. 
