Dear Silva, Glad to see we are back. You sound like you are in a rare mood today. Having some fun or just pretending. Doesn't matter anyway. I am ok today. Slightly afraid of the weekend - always seems to be the war zone, but my H has been good all week and we will see how the weekend goes. If it gets tense I will call out here instead of arguing with him. I got your point the other night about DA being about us and not the other person. I am just frustrated and afraid that he will resolve his issues and then we have to deal with mine. I don't want to waste my life this way. We never know how much time we have and I want to enjoy it. Have to admit that the looking at myself stuff is scary too - last weekend was my fault for trying to drive home my point instead of acknowledging his changes. Also struggling with the hurt from before -what brought us to this point and shy of trusting him again. Anyway, I enjoyed the humor so far. It's sooooo necessary sometimes to cope with what we go through.
Yes Kassie, my exh does have a drinking problem. Go read through my threads and you can see what I have been dealing with. Love to hear others perspective. His drinking and his A go together. When he drinks he tends to reach out to me and text etc. When he is sober he is cold and distant.
CZ breathe....don't overanalyze like I do. Gets you nowhere!
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Woot, Day 5 is wrapping up. I did have to send about 3 texts. Kids are getting basketball and cheerleading pictures taken so I asked her if she wanted any.
Honestly, I could have just not said anything and she would have been out of luck, but that would be cruel.
I don't want to be CRUEL, but I don't know if I should do that or not. Sigh...
startingover2 it's late for me - will read through your stuff this weekend and get back to you. I know the need to hear from others on the subject. Long subject. Never any real answers just living one day at time and finding a way to live with it. Haven't figured that out. Don't think too many people have either. But this place is different. We will talk. Stay strong and take care of yourself and the kids. It's so important.
TOH here trying to hold it all together. Lets see...today is my 12th day of NC, at least by me. I was surprised when I counted as it sure seems like a hell of a lot longer than that.
Latter part of this week H doing chores late in the day. Usually does them early and then long gone before I get home. But I had things to do so I wasn't home. Yesterday morning he stops in after work. Talked for quite awhile. I was upbeat and nice. Didn't ask him a thing. Let him talk. Didn't tell him what I've been up to. He of course didn't ask either. We mostly talked about the girls, work, and money. He had plugged in the tractors when he was here. But when I got home I seen he never came back and did chores? Nothing from him since.
Have a great day!
M41 H42 D17 Adopted N14 M22 T24 "Bomb" 4/07 Sep 8/07 Admitted OW 11/07(only to me) OW back 12/4/07 PA on off thru 7/08 says done w/OW but not coming home 8/08 D final 7/09 Moving on and up!!
