Did you respond to your W's nasty vm? I think you prob. shouldn't, I'm thinking right now that you should just ignore the crazy stuff and respond positively whenever she is vaguely polite or civil.
If her vms or emails are really crazy sounding, have you saved them and given any to your L? I know my H saves every email of mine for some reason. B/c of that I try not to email him with anything that I wouldn't mind a judge and lawyers seeing, b/c I guess they might.
I feel like my H is kind of gone wherever it is they go and doesn't seem to be likely to reappear. I am moving on, as much as a married person can do, just focusing on me and the kids and trying to get healthy. If my H ever regained his sanity or returned or whatever, I guess I could worry about it then, but kind of a waste of energy to worry about it at this point. I do know that we can feel good about trying our best to be good, loving spouses and parents, something our WAS don't have. Karen
