Yesterday was a fairly good day. H picked me up for mc from work. He had s7 in the car. Now I had already lined up child care. H said he didn't want to stay with the sitter.
On the way to mc I wispered to h, couldn't you have made a stance and said you will need to stay with the sitter. Well that comment set h off. It was the first thing out of his mouth at mc.
H felt undermined, telling him what to do. He said the decision was made no reason to say anything. This is a big issue for us and we will need to work through this.
For me is was just a though that fleeted in my mind and I spoke it out without thinking it through. Just like you would have a conversation. I think my h goes to a bit extreme, like it sets him back for miles when I say these types of things.
This I am sure will need to be discussed more in mc.
H took me and the kids out for dinner. He gave me a nice big hug and kiss before he left and said see you Sat night.
I am going shopping for a new mattress today. H said Glam go buy us a new mattress for our bed. Hmmmmmmmmm!
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
Oh, and when you stop over at my thread, can you please tell me how in the world you got from restraining order to MC!!??? I'd love to hear the skinny on that one. How long did you go without contact with your H. Did he then contact you? What inspired him to do that? Ya know......give me details!
And are you on the alt? If so, look me up under "SChrldr".
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TJ
Me45,H49 D24,S18 M26,T28 Bomb 3/19/08 Sep 6/23/08 EA/PA with Secretary 2007-8 3/2009 H moved in w/OW2 7/2009 Let him go w/Love. 8/2009 Legally Sep'd
TL you are so right. It is hard. I have to remember that. It is my biggest obstacle to bringing my h home or one of my biggest.
I will look you up SC. I posted to you on your thread.
I got an unexpected call from h today. Earlier I sent him an e-mail updating him on some things he had asked me to do. I also let him know that I was taking d4 out shopping and out for lunch. She had some money from grandma and grandpa to spend.
H was just very friendly, asking me what I was up to. We chatted for awhile and then I said I had to go and get s7.
Now h rarely calls on my day off just to chat. So I am enjoying a new pattern emerging from him.
Have a wonderful weekend all!
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
When h is here I still refer to it as "our room" "our closet" "our bathroom" ........
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
H had said this week Glam go out and get us a new mattress for "our" bed. We didn't discuss how much to spend, but I was thinking $800 or less and $800 was on the higher end. Now I know you can't get much for that price, but that was all we could afford.
So today, I decide to go out shopping. I stopped at one place and the best price was $900 for a &1299 mattress or I could get one around $500 which of course is a low end, but decent mattress.
I decided to continue shopping. I was praying on my way to the next store that I would find a good quality mattress at a low price. Just praying for God to guide me. Stopped in the next store. The store employee decided to check the closeouts and returns and also dispaly models.
He showed me a few and there was one that felt really good and he said the price on it is normally is $899 and he would give it to me for $539. I said let me call my h. I tried to reach h, but he was not available, so decided to make the decision myself since I knew the mattress would not last at that price.
The guy starts to write everything up for me and he says wow my workers made a mistake and put the wrong tag on that bed, but I will honor the price. This was originally a $1299 queen mattress set that I got for $539. The guy said I had to sell that to you below cost. I ordered a mattress cover, memory pillows, frame and am having it delivered next Friday.
I did share with the guy my praying before entering the store and told him to tell his workers they were a gift from God to me.
Wow! I am having a really nice mattress being delivered. I did call h and had to leave him a message. Hopefully he will be understanding of my executive decision.
This is how the power of prayer helps me so often in this game called life.
God bless everyone!
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"