Don't say anything. Just let her come to you. That way you're giving her space and she can't blame you for anything.
As for the counseling deal, I believe she's fishing. 1) for information as to what she is going through because she doesn't want to go herself and 2) for control and wants you to behave a certain way.
The next time she asks you what happened in counseling, tell her that if she was interested she should go down with you and that it's inappropriate for her to know since the counseling is to help you and not for her to criticize. The counseling is for you not her unless she plans to participate.
As one of my friends told me, get your balls back a little at a time and take the control back.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
