Thank you for checking in on me & posting to my thread. As you know this has been a rough month for me & I want to let you know how much I appreciate your support & advice!!
I'm sitting here drinking...I found some of H's jewelry that I bought him...he didn't take it with him...it's hard...been crying...haven't heard from him since Wednesday but i haven't tried to contact him either...went dark...guess he doesn't miss us...Mom...will I ever find love agian? Really? I have so much love to give...my kids are getting tired of me hugging and kissing them...LOL
Treese
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
I have felt like you are right now. I used to think that my H would never come home. He said he was happy and it was over. Just threw me and the kids away.
My H left his jewelry here too. What really bothered me that he left his wedding band here too. It was like we never even existed for him.
My H would disappear for weeks on end without contact and you know what????? It was good for him and good for me and the kids too. I had peace and quite and wasn't walking on eggshells all the time. It helped my H to miss us some too. It let my H be alone with the ow so he could see what she really was and for him to come to terms with his life and what he wanted. They need this time by themselves or sort through everything and to make it through this crisis.
Think of it as being good and not bad. Don't worry, a mothers kiss and hug will never get tiring. Give them lotts of them!!!!
My H also told me that "we werent like that anymore"...did your H ever tell you that? He said he has no attraction to me..and will never come home...just digs right to the core...
And you are right....no contact or talking makes an easy day for me...If I see his name pop up on my phone my heart drops..
And, won't it appear that OW is great since she took care of him after his surgery and all...she was his nurse..makes me sick..but if that's what he wants...he can have it...she will never measure up to me and all ive done for my family..He will see that some day...at least I hope he does..
D22 left yesterday...I miss her so much..H never even knows when she is here. I cant' wait to go up and watch her boyfriend ask her to marry him....I've started her a scrapbook on the engagement....
Thanks YR for always listening
Treese
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
OMG. my H said exactly the same things!!! He told me that there was no more attraction. It just goes to show you that most of them read out of the same MLC book.
It might appear that the ow is great right now. It will get old. The best thing that you can do now is to let him spend as much time with the ow so the shine dulls on their R. Your right she will never measure up!!! Look at what she is!!!
