Don't spend too much time trying to seperate the truth from the lies. Do what makes sense to protect the kids. That's all that's important now. (Well, and you!) Cheaters lie. And once they start down that road, I think even their own perception of the truth gets distorted. If they can't figure it out there is no way you can! Take care, and keep that smile on your face!
I'm not trying to spend much time separating the truth from the lies. I know he told some truths, and brought me the ultimate truth which was helpful. Whether or not OW made him choose between his daughter or his wife or if she tried to get a parent to shirk his responsibilities is irrelevant. I just put that out there to explain I hope nothing like that happens with my kids.
I know she's personally not taking actions to protect her son and stbx told me that since crazy ex lost his job he wants child support from her and stbx and OW both think that's totally crazy. She brought my daughter around her crazy ex. Not putting the kid's best interest first. I want the pattern noted and hopefully stopped. (no expectations)
I will do what I need to do to protect my kids. I'm a mamabear at my very core. Don't mess with a mamabear!
As for my stbx, he's the one who has to live with himself in the long run. He's the one who has to live with the consequences of his actions even though he doesn't think there should be any. I truly feel that he'll pay for his misdeeds in the long run.
As for me, I'm good. My life is good. I've been wronged, I'm still angered by it all but good prevails. I've come out on top and I have only higher places to reach. The choices I've made are ones of which I can be proud, ones I can share with my children and ones I can live with without pain for the rest of my life.
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09
