Took a personal day today. Spending the morning dividing up my childrens' toys, books, puzzles, and games so Dan can have half for his place. Not to make life easier for Dan, but to make it more comfortable and home-like for my children....
And as a side benefit and I am re-gaining some space in my house!
Dan got home last night from Canada. Called from the airport to tell me he landed. Then called from the road to tell he when he was ten minutes away. WTF And he actually said when he called from the airport "I will be home as soon as I pick up my bags." If this is home I wonder what he will call his new house?
Anyway his dad called to say they hit a deer while going to see my niece play basketball. They were 5 miles from the town where the game was so BIL/SIL picked them up and took them to the game. But Dan said he would go get them from that place (50 miles away) and load their car on BIL's trailer and drive them back to Glenwood. Don't know why BIL couldn't do that...
So as soon as kids were in bed Dan said he was leaving to help his parents. I must have made a face, he asked "What". I said "You told me when I sent you the plans I had written up on Monday that you would talk to me about it on Wednesday night, then Wednesday you said you would talk to me about it tonight..."
Dan said he would call his parents and tell them he couldn't help. I said of course that isn't my point, you could call me while you are driving there and we could talk.
He said "Well first off, I thought I was giving you more money that what you wrote down". I told him if he wanted to give more that was up to him but I needed to know the precise amount he was putting on his paycheck drafting form so I knew what was being deposited in my acct. so I could do my budget.
Anyway as soon as I mentioned the kids he got all irritable. Then he said he would tell them Saturday, but that he wanted us to then spend all of Saturday and Sunday together WITH the kids so they could see that we were still a family and that we could help them if they were struggling with the news.
Then he just got short with me and I told him I didn't see the need for the attitude. He said he wasn't mad at me...
I said okay, tomorrow (Friday/today) night then we need to practice what we are going to say to the kids. I don't think it is a good idea to leave it open-ended because I don't think that is the case. (Meaning I don't think we will be getting back together) H got all frustrated and stood up and said, "I DO want to leave it open b/c I meant what I said (that we could get back together". Then he went and got his shoes and left to help his parents...
