I think snuggling is a good start. You said you weren't "there" when it comes to the other stuff in bed yet, anyway, right? At least he held your hand.
Do your kids know your situation? I know you said they were both having 'issues' at school. Do they consider you guys separated? I just wonder with you all taking a trip together at Christmas and then him spending the night, do you think that affects them?
I just wonder b/c my S pointed out again today that Daddy was not there when he woke up.....he is noticing Daddy is never here in the mornings even though he is here when they go to bed...
