On the depression side - have you come across 'Learned Optimism' and 'Authentic Happiness' by Martin Seligman? Also Positive Psychology - The Science of Happiness and Human Strengths by Alan Carr, ( and no NOT that Alan Carr!!!!!!)
I have struggled with depression as I told you before. With the help of a clinical psychologist I got of my AD's and I was pretty heavily drugged up for a year or so after my suicide attempt after my H dropped his bomb about his A. I do know what it's like to be like that - I think that's why I find your sitch so compulsive.
Piecing is hard....but if you manage to get there it is wonderful when it works. DBing is for life.
I want this to work for you Ali, really I do. I know it may not seem that way......but I do.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength