"Very few men go back to women b/c of the great sex they never had. So, you need to show your h that you are letting go of the past, whatever that means, and are not going to be angry at him forever. I KNOW you are "Right to be mad" I get that. But ask yourself, do you want to be right, or happy? Has the anger at your h gotten you anywhere? "
Very insightful and true IMO.
This is where I feel I am in my marriage. Sex has been cut off until I "act right" and see things / do things her way. She hasn't specifically said it that way but IMO it is what the situation actually is. There has been no cheating that I am aware of. For some reason she seems to think sex with her is such a strong influence on me or I desire it with her so much that withholding it will get her what she wants. She's wrong. I don't think I want a relationship where sex is used as a manipulative tool. Yes - I want to have sex with her but.... it can be replaced with someone else.
