Good morning frank. How are you today?

Frank:
  • it is OK to still have pain over this. I do. Many here do. It is normal. Don't bury it..feel it...embrace it....process the pain.
  • DC talks about the power of positive thinking.
    a)I don't like AA and I'm not a dry drunk
    b) my daughters need me. ONE of us has to be stable and steady. I WILL stop drinking
  • Do ONE thing today....get out of the house...and go start ONE thing. Register..sign up...call...introduce....request...inquire...ONE THING!!!!


I am convinced that one of your problems is that your job keeps you glued in place. You are surrounded by negative cues. New surroundings..new faces...make ALL the difference in the world.

Know something frank...I have NEVER made this rec to anyone but perhaps checking into match.com, meetup.com, etc, would be helpful. Even ANYTHING..just to see what's out there.

frank....I know that YOU KNOW that I don't have to say this...but...PLEASE..those girls of yours....I MISSED messages along MY path with my W....I know you haven't missed the one from your daughter. Attend to it. I know you will.
Please get this if you haven't already:
What a Difference a Daddy Makes: The Indelible Imprint a Dad Leaves on His Daughter's Life

Finally frank....the guy down the street is a dorkelhose. He cheats with married women. He does it in full view of her husband. Your wife chose this guy. She doesn't have the integrity to manage things first and do this later.

Let it go. It's time to let this go. When I whined to my atty on the phone when my W brought up possibly going to the Bahamas..and the possibility of OM down there...she said, "FIB...you're getting divorced..there are going to be OM's."

Let it go frank. This is his problem. Your W will be with another guy behind dorkelhose's back soon enough. Don't worry about. Read DC's response to me on my thread.

Start from scratch. Close the door. Toss out the bottle. Forget about dorkelhose...he's going to get his.

Start your new life today.
FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;