Partner left after 9 years - eclipses coming up!

[saffie]

Oh....I said I wasn't going to comment again and here I go. I apologise in advance.

I'm a Leo- can't you tell Ali? I find your thread very interesting and enticing - I love all the horoscope stuff - but at the same time it's like watching a car crash in slow motion.

Let's go right back to the beginning. If I remember right, your ex asked you to marry him twice. Now from my experience, one refusal to a Leo wounds pretty deep - lucky to get the second offer I feel....and no surprise that offer was retracted when you wanted to accept. A leo expects an offer to be accepted with fanfares and great thanks at the very time it is made....not later.

We Leos's are pretty loyal, but you give us reason to be hurt and rejected, it takes a lot to change us back into wanting to feel the same way about that person again.

We also have a very lazy side to our natures so having someone else take up the slack of some repsonsibilities and know that you can trust them to do so is great. Just feed them enough attention to keep them doing it for you....and that's not a conscious thought......we just kind of do it. After all, we deserve to be looked after. We also like to be liked and don't really want anyone to think badly of us....so we are going to be nice when contact is needed.

Ali, I read your thread and I see that you are getting out and doing stuff.....but it seems that you do it so your ex gets to here about it rather than because you want to do it. YOU are worth so much more.

Please re read this thread and see how much you seem to live your life around what your ex might or might not think, what Cher might or might not know, what X might be saying to y. And if you think that those people that talk to you about your ex aren't talking to him about you then you are being a little bit immature; people love to gossip.

I know you are hurting. It pours out of your posts. Please, see that this guy has gone. He is financially tied to you at a time when the economy means it is hard to untangle your assets. He has no reason to do anything other than be pleasant and keep occasional contact with you until all that can be sorted. In fact he would be foolish to be otherwise as it would just end up with increased legal costs etc.

I now sit here agonising over whether or not to hit the post button or not.

Tell me this. If he contacted you today and said he was sorry - he had been a fool, he wanted back with you, what would you do? I would be so scared that this person would do this again to me if I were you.

I fail to see from your posts how you are able to keep up such hope for him to come back when he appears to really give you no reason to think that that will happen.

Darn it, I will post this. I don't think it will change a thing - you will find a way to reason around my comments, but Ali, I just want you to stop hurting.