Too late for DB, #10

[cw68]

Just an update... divorce will be final next month. stbxH & OW were going to buy me out of the house, but told me today that they are probably going to back out of that (it's been in the works since October and was going to be final next week). Why? Because a few days ago OW's exhusband called me and the [censored] hit the fan.

He's a pedophile (first hooked up with sbtx's OW when she was 16 and he was 48), has kind of been stalking her (claims to me, which he recanted to stbx, that he's watched them have sex), hired a PI to follow them and just lost his job. So this pedophile has been watching my kids (including D7)? OW brought her to a custody exchange with a volatile pervert?

I want my kids protected. Throughout the day I tried to call stbx and he sent my calls to igonore. Emailed him that there was something disturbing going on, something potentially dangerous to our kids and to call me. He replied with a few emails, to which I replied "Call me." He didn't. Told him I was just about to take steps to protect our kids. I picked them up on a night that he was supposed to have them, but I wasn't breaking any laws because we have not filed any custody papers. I left him messages telling him what I was doing, why I was doing it and to call me. Of course, he didn't listen to them and called me "Where the FCK is S6?" I asked if he had listened to my messages. "No, I don't need to. I'm calling the cops." threatening me, mad as hell, until I got him to stop and to listen to me. The one small piece of credit he deserves is that he right then, right there, apologized and said that was his bad.

However, in the end, OW won't file a restraining order on crazy ex. (Whom I do feel badly for and don't think he's a physical threat to my kids. But i don't want him taping/watching them in any way, shape or form. nor do I want them to ever be around him.) For me to do so would take some money and a lot of time. stbx apparently wants to file a restraining order on the PI that was hired and has drawn up the papers to file a restraining order on crazy ex in case he does need to file at some point.

stbx was supposed to have the house swept for surveillance equipment today before the kids could return to the house (or have a restraining order filed against crazy ex, that was my attorney's suggested protection for the kids) and I was told that he did, though he never produced the proof promised. Big surprise. I didn't want to go over there and pull the kids from him and upset them (they knew nothing weird was going on yesterday, thought Dad just had to work late). I get them tomorrow.

In addition to all the above, OW's ex told me he first heard about my stbx in 2005. Yep, 2005. Apparently he put a flirty note on her windshield. stbx said it said, "thanks for cleaning my teeth. I'm now flossing daily." and asked me, "haven't you ever sent a thank you note before?" Me, "Yes, but never to my dental hygienist or other person to whom I paid for a service and never on the windshield of a car."

AND crazy ex faxed me seven months worth of phone logs proving (frighteningly detailed, breaking down each month's contact and number of text) that they have, in fact, been an item at least from Jan 2008 though he swore to me he had no contact with her from Nov 07 until June 08. Even tried to keep playing things off after I faxed him a small snippet of a log from the week he moved out. "Yes, you got me, we were in phone contact." Finally, though, he did admit to it, but still insists they never had sex pre April 08, which was our last intimate contact. (For the record, I don't believe him.)

I sent OW an email today (3rd one ever, the first two being in Nov 2007) telling her my thoughts on a few things and that I hope she never hurt my kids because crazy ex claimed she made him choose between his daughter and her and that she complained all the time about him paying support to his wife from the marriage she played a part in breaking up. (For the record, I don't believe evertyhing crazy ex said, but he said enough truths to make me wonder what were and weren't true.) stbx replies to that email that was forwarded to him asking me to stop the dramatics because he feels he's reading from the script of a soap opera.

Like I did this? I chose the crazy? Not! I step away from the crazy.

Whew. What an update.