You are definitely headed in the right direction. Good for you for even having the capacity to be broken by your wife after having an emotional affair. They can so distort things...but I think your heart was right at the right time...and you can get through this.
You'll just have to put a cork in it and trust God.
Get and read Divorce Remedy cover to cover. Then when you think you've got it all down pat, read it again.
Don't talk more than you listen. Read and pray and never stop seeking grace. Also recognize that you need to lay the jealousy aside and support her in her efforts to broaden her horizons. If it looks like you are not, she will not stay with you. So stifle the paranoia. And recognize that it comes from your own indescretions.
