Is the answer blowing in the wind?

[Trixi]

Well, I'm back. That was an exhausting 3 days. They kept us very busy. It was emotionally draining. It dredged up crap for me from my childhood, some of the crap my H has done, in addition to stupid stuff SS has done.

The bed was uncomfortable, so it was hard to get a good nights sleep.
H and I got into a few different tiffs.

I enjoyed the "groups" a lot. Learned a TON about the chemistry of addiction, the dynamics of how the whole family is "sick", great lectures about personal responsibility.

Most interesting thing was that the center said that SS should NOT go to H's house. But NOT because of the living sitch. The counselor said "Well, that house is clearly not safe for SS. However, even if it WAS safe, SS needs to step up and be a man and quit relying on daddy." She did drop a couple comments that H may want to seriously consider AA or coming back to the rehab center himself. After it was explained to me, I totally agreed that SS should not go to H's house or my house. No more 'rescuing' from me. He's 21 and needs to be expected to act like a 21yo.

H brought up counseling for us. We are scheduled for next Thurs morning.

I am going to go to an al-anon meeting tomorrow evening.

I'm pooped.