I can't freakin BELIEVE you still think you don't need something along the lines of AA. When you don't drink, you're just a dry drunk, Frank! A DRY DRUNK.
How much of this is your anger towards your H? I know what a 'dry drunk' is. I have never been that kind of man. Remember, and if you don't, look at my threads from 3 YEARS ago when W Was ' in love' with her Soulmate. I didn't drink for 11 months, and I DB'd her back but she did NOT change, and I carried all the pressure of our relationship. You yourself said 'when is she going to carry some of the load'.
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No one here or anywhere else can ever help you if all you do is put up a front.
Nobody here can help me at all. This is not a 'self esteem recovery group. It's a 'Divorce busting group' which only works when the member has the emotional strength to get through this.
It's a group who's focus is on bettering themselves so they can 'attract' their WAS back, or at least find strength in themselves.
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You don't need a "friend". You need a &%^*$#@ CLUE.
So, AmyC what you are saying is I do not need any support. Just a clue?
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I hope your daughter's letter DID wake you up. You shouldn't have ever been running your mouth to your kids about OM in the first damn place. It's POSTURING.
You vent here. You are not a newbie.
Fair enough, I agree with you on this one.
I am not a newbie. I still hurt. But It has to become irrelevant.
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So now you want to come here and get kudos for sucking up to your wife and making dinner plans for your daughter's birthday? Come here and tell us how you've seen the error of your ways?
I don't need 'kudos' from anyone. I was actually expecting 2x4's for being a wooose
But, I got from you some grenades.
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You don't need nor am I asking you to do so but do you know what would impress me?
Get your butt to AA and weekly counseling sessions.
Then join a bowling league or something for christ's sake! New people don't need to "understand" what you're going through - YOU need to cut it the **** loose and get a life.
I'm sorry but dammit, Frank!!!
AmyC
I hear where you are coming from.
You are 100% wrong about my need to make some local friends. 100%.
I am alone every night, stuck thinking about how my STBXC is down the street fuc*ing her 'boyfriend' . Yet I am 'stuck' being financially responsible for her life.
Yeah, it sucks. I hate it. And I DO need a local friend who is not [censored]*ed up like my current one is. (ken)
So stop thinking you have the all encompassing answer. You dont.
