forgive me but I shared a bit of your story with s22, due to his own "R" issues. And he said, "There's 0% chance that the woman who wrote that, is normal or kind or not emotionally disturbed..."
You know nlt, it's only a matter of time before your h sees the truth, unless he's really off his rocker. I'm not saying he'll be willing or able to come back to you, but I cannot imagine him not seeing this behavior as pathological. It is.
Anyhow, thought I'd pass s22's commet on to you. Sometimes young men do think straight. (And I raised him!)
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