in a galaxy far, far away...

[Silent Chrleader]

Thanks SC, but I dont have the nerve to do that!

Why not? And I don't think he has the guts to file....if he did he wouldn't be hangin' around dragging his feet. But even still, so what if he files! That at least gets you off the hook for taking on that headache.

I'm not talking about being mean, really!!! I am just talking about setting some firm reasonable boundaries! He can't come unless he gives advance notice. He should meet with S on his turf. You need to make that house your kingdom! Your safe zone! And if you just tell him that you have come to realize that he is right, and that you both do need to step back and try to get a clearer look at what will make you happy, and you can't do that if your living under the gun of his presence, or even his potential presence unannounced!

Well, that's MHO anyway.....

I wish we could all meet - wouldnt that be great?

Yes, it would be a really great thing!!! I'd love it! Like I've said before, we need to have a convention!!