Mel, I am not surprised that he is still trying to "drag you in" to talking to him. You have done a 180, so he probably doesn't know what to make of it. If you want to respond at all to something like that, you can just say.."okay" or "thanks" or something. I think not saying anything was fine too.
I don't think you need to torment yourself trying to justify yourself. He's not even accusing you of anything, and yet his tactics have left you STILL trying to figure out what you HAVE done in the marriage, like his voice is still in your head, making you defend yourself, prove yourself. He's not even there, girl!!
