Gteat stuff. I learn..still. Jeannette...thanks for your post. I HAVE stopped lamenting about what was. If anything, I lament about what will BE...but..with regards to our eventual division. The kids have lived together with US together for the last 3 years...thru the struggle....and have yet say 'goodbye' for 50% of the time to both of us.

Yes...the kids have adjusted very well to doing things divided. They accept as normal that mom goes this way and dad goes that way. But....not having dad at night half the time...is yet to come.

Jeanette...please not that I have NOT said that positive things are in my future. I still struggle with eventually not seeing my kids half the time.

I don't think that there is anything that ANYONE can say here to assuage that pain. It will have to go away with time...when it happens...by me. FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;