That is the advice you are getting about 1 2 and 3.
Your life is not ours to live, if you don't like the advice don't take it. I get no kick out of someone doing exactly what I say, you're not a puppet. Make your own choices while realizing how, very recently, poor choices adversely affected you and her.
Yes, of course she claims it is you. The is some validity to it, but she can't blame herself now can she. Point in fact she doesn't want to be the bad guy to your son.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK