Pearl, It's not easy to do - the detachment is so that you can get PAST the uncontrollable crying.
The first two or three days are going to be horrific - I compare it to an addiction - but then it gets easier. Find things to do - especially things that engage your mind. If you find yourself thinking about him/sitch - force yourself to think about something else, or get up and move around.
It is easier said than done, but if you focus, you'll get there!
JD is right pearl, it gets easier. The longer you go, the better is gets. Be prepared for a fallback though. That's what happened to me yesterday. I felt worse than I did on D Day. However, I am still here, still alive and breathing and feel a little better today.
I know that as the days pass, I will feel stronger and stronger and so will you.
I think the goal is eventually we have more good days than bad. Things will come up (like what I am dealing with now) and set us back, but hopefully we will bounce back faster.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
You are right. I hit bottom yesterday and I think it did me a lot of good. I feel like I have dropped the rope. I can concentrate on me now. I have another 10 days or so until the new meds kick in, so by then, I'll be unstoppable
I am missin my H terribly. He has been around the farm close to times that I get home. Just enough to purk my interest. I've not seen him or talked to him since Monday night.
Tonight I met him on the highway. I waved he just nodded. Wow, that hurts.
Of course my first thought is to call him.
I didn't, and I wont. Damb this is hard. But I can do it!
M41 H42 D17 Adopted N14 M22 T24 "Bomb" 4/07 Sep 8/07 Admitted OW 11/07(only to me) OW back 12/4/07 PA on off thru 7/08 says done w/OW but not coming home 8/08 D final 7/09 Moving on and up!!
Yes it is hard, if you have read my thread, I had a monumental breakdown of my NC (thanks to my S23). Anyway, I felt worse yesterday than I have EVER felt in my life, and that was with W being there.
I feel better today and know that I can make it now. You will get there as well. It's a long road, but with us by your side, you will make it.
Day 4 wrapping up for me! W sent me a phone pic of S6 getting a reading promotion in his class. No response from me. I always used to text back some warm fuzzy thing, but I figure she probably doesn't even read it to him...
