Quotes found on Divorcebusting (II)

[Ready2Change]

I feel this is valuable, so I will post it here:

Sorry about your current state of the R. Have FAITH that it will get better. Remember that it only takes ONE PERSON (YOU) to change the dynamics of a relationship. This process has taught me PATIENCE. I have learned how to truly FORGIVE others. I can feel EMPATHY for others (WIFE). When others (WIFE) PROJECT there garbage (Anger etc....) on me, I have learned not to reflect it back, rather I LISTEN and VALIDATE. I have accepted that everyone needs to walk their own path, and right now, my W is walking her path without me. My happiness is not dependent on anyone but ME. Passing out what I want to receive is working great. The more KINDNESS I pass out, the more I receive.

I ask these questions many times a day:
1) Is what I am about to do or say going to draw this person (spouse) closer or push them farther away? Make your choice wisely.
2) Is the decision I am about to make in the best interest of my kids? If it is, then the decision is good for ME.
3) Has this method worked in the past? If not, do something different, maybe a 180....