Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
WOW, WTH?? I'm stunned. It's an evil note to write.
Why would she send something like that? I do believe you when you say your h would not send something like it. Definitely send the message about the dog but leave out details so he has to contact you for them or put it in way you think is most likely to generate a question from him. When and if he contacts you, ask why he writes things like that? Let him know she's doing it. Geez, what a witch. I have never seen anything like a note like that.
Did you know this demon before? I mean who is she? She must not feel secure but who knows what she tells him? Weird. Even my sister's xh and his ow/wife didn't write that mean of stuff. Just whined about the costs of raising kids (sister and her xh were not able to have any, and he and ow/wife had a baby right away...ouch). j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Isn't this woman evil!!!! 25years, here is the first email I ever got from her "thanking me for my H":
Nancy, I just want so say thank you.....for the most beautiful, amazing, kind, caring, and loving man I've ever known in my life. I am truly blessed beyond my dreams. (And of course, for not suing me - that was so generous of you!) Life goes on...I wish you all of the good stuff...love and happiness and freedom from anything that does not lead you there.
I am happy it is all over and I am sure you are too.
Finally we call all B-R-E-A-T-H-E.!
Take care, Debbie
I do think she is insecure, why would you have to explain how happy you are?? When normally someone is happy they just wouldn't have to go into something like that. If she gave my ex the message about our dog, which I doubt she would, I don't think he would contact me. When he got his stuff out of the house I had told him then she had kidney failure, so I'm sure he will know why & not call about the details. OW probably wouldn't let him anyway.
No, I didn't know this demon before, my ex didn't know this demon before. He met her on a scuba diving trip, end of Jun 07, she lived in TX, we live in TN, so they emailed & talked on the phone from June until Sept. 6, 2007, that is when he said he wanted a D. She re-did his resume on Sept. 4th. They had not even seen each other except for that 3 or 4 days on the boat scuba diving. Then after he told me he wanted a D, they saw each other once a month until he moved out there in March 08.
BTW, on that other email H/OW sent, my H wouldn't say Yippee!!
Geesh, Nancy, I cannot believe I am reading these things. Well, yes, I can.
She is a piece of work, isn't she?
She is very insecure indeed. All must not be a bed of roses or she would not go to such lengths to do this.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I have to agree with you!!! She wouldn't be sending that email about "finding a wonderful person like I did" if everything was all right between them!
She is a piece of work indeed! After reading what she wrote in the "TY for my H" email & then this last stuff, I'm sure it was her writing & just trying to make me believe that my ex was writing this to me. He wouldn't do that, I'm almost sure of it.
Unbelievable, Damn and Yipee. Like this is highschool. What a ho. Oh my gosh, cruel is all I can say. What is she going to say when the M is no longer working.
Wow, if your h can't see through her, he is really blind. Your h found a real keeper. NOT!
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
When the blinders come off he will see how Cruella De Vil operates.
It may take awhile but eventually he will see. No wonder they are in China. She has him far removed from friends, family, people who really know HER.
Unbelievable.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
A few years ago we would nominate MLCers for their "wackiest" moments and it got pretty funny. I think we may have to come up "nerviest OP" awards now...just for "Debbie".
I cannot fathom why she felt she needed to say anything to you at all. I mean, did you ever say anything to her first, like "ho, stop commiting A," or did you tell her you loved your h and didn't want to lose him and that it broke your heart? Any type of prior contact?
If not, then this is truly both inexplicable and despicable. Honestly, when I put myself into a "selfish all about me and what I want now " state of mind, I still like to believe if I married someone else's h, I'd probably say something like "sorry, but we just fell in love and didn't meant to hurt anyone, couldn't help it, blah blah blah, so absent that, I really don't get the need to say anything, I mean I wouldn't say a word to an ex gf of my h, let alone a WIFE I had stolen him from.... WTH?? It's literally shameless.
I can't believe that this behavior isn't something that will be someday revealed to him in some form. Keep a copy of the emails though, b/c your xh ought to know, someday what torture this idiot psycho tried to put you thru. And I DO believe she'll show this side to him, eventually. Hopefully she won't actually harm him physically but these notes are so weird and unjustified... again, WTH??? j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
– oh well – one more month…..Debbie and I are still well on our way to being done supporting you! Yippee!