Let her lead, no r talk, back off.no pushing.bite your tongue.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
What about moving myself to another bedroom we have ?
No !!!!!!!!!!! for the reasons stated, this is what she wants, she must do it.
My wife and kids lived in the splendor of our heated home, whilst I, who provided it all, lived in an attic, that you could not stand up in. What a prat I was.
There have been others who have passed through this site, who have sleeped on couches, for an equal length of time, while we gracefully give them the master bedroom.
You being the chivalrous, nice guy, will make no difference to the outcome.
If asked to move , do I remind her this was her idea. If and When she wants to talk to our S-11 about it , she wants to say WE want a divorce. I told her I didn't want a divorce and felt he should know that. She didn't want to do that. It was making her look like the bad person.
Too bad for her. Stick to your guns on this one. There is a difference between R talks and kid talks. Let her know you aren't going to lie to him to make her feel better. I didn't. BUT you also do not vilify her to him. You do not make her the bad guy when you talk to him.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
