Hey Puppy thanks for the info. Actually, I think MY H may have put a keylogger onto my computer to see if I am checking up on him (or trying to anyway). He's very computer savy. And he has his own place, so I don't have access to his computer anyway.
I am so very sorry for the things you had to see and hear, that must have been beyond torturous for you and I am not sure I could stomach it. But you are right, knowing is better than not knowing as painful as it may be. Thanks again for all your help, and post an update on your situation when you can. Hugs.