H4H, I've not posted to you before, but your last statement really struck home with me. Perhaps that is what we are all doing, the LBS's as much as the WAS's who seem to hang on (each in their own way). Perhaps we are all letting our marriages die a slow, if not peaceful death. Perhaps for the majority of us, it is just too painful and impossible to let it all go right away, but instead, it has to be done in stages. Maybe it is even harder for the WAS to completely let go than it is for the LBS? I surely don't know but I've read a lot of your posts and you remind me so much of me and I am sorry for the pain you are in. Even when we are feeling like we don't want them anymore, it still hurts something terrible.
Welcome to the wonderful world of H4H. I'd offer you a drink, but I'm not sure if you partake. Keep on postin'.
It's taken me a hell of a long time to get where I am.
I got a call from D7's afterschool counselor at the Y. D7 was complaining about her throat and had a slight fever. About 99.5 degrees. I asked how she was acting and they said that she seemed kind of down and was laying on a cot. Not bad, though.
I thanked them for letting me know. I shot a text to the wife instead of an email because I was getting ready to leave. I just wanted her to know about D7. I would want her to let me know these things too.
"Just wanted to let you know that the Y called and said that D7 had a slight fever and her throat hurts. They had her laying on a cot feeling kind of down."
She called me while I was walking into Home Depot. She told she had gotten my text. She told me that D7 had been coughing and was being given cough meds and also allergy meds, but that they didn't seem to be working. We talked a little about her snoring, which has been getting worse. When D11 was D7's age, we had to have her tonsils and adenoids removed. She snored so bad and couldn't breath at night, that she would keep waking up through out the night gasping for air. In the morning, she was tired and acted terrible. After the surgery, she sleeps like a baby. Made a world of difference.
We're going to have to do the same for D7, I think.
The wife said she was on her way to get D7. She talked about a couple things, but I don't remember because I wasn't really paying attention. The traffic I think. She ended the conversation.
"Well, I better go. I'll talk to you later, okay?" "Okay, bye."
Made myself some dinner at home, paid a bill and then started to watch "Out of Sight". George Clooney and J Lo. I love all those types of movies. Elmore Leonard books, I think. Related to "Pulp Fiction", "Jackie Brown" and "Get Shorty". I got 'em all.
My brother calls me around 8:30. He is getting closer to taking a leave of absence from work to go through rehab for his drinking but he's worried he may not have a job afterwards because of cut backs. I told him he has to do what he has to. He starts to talk about his soon to be ex. Still going through his crap. Why did they do this to us? Did they plan to do this? How painful it is to see all the pics and stuff still up on the walls and stuff.
I jumped his ass and told him he needs to take all that junk down if he can't handle seeing it. I told him I know exactly what he is going through, but I'm not going to let it keep me from living. He is such a "woe is me" type and lives a constant pity party. After 30 minutes of tough love, reality checks and ministering to him, I get a call on the other line from the wifes cell.
I ended my call with my brother and it was D7 calling me. I told her how happy I was that she was calling me. Ecstatic, actually. I kept thanking her and she was being funny. I took a chance and asked her,"
"Okay. Tell me the truth. You remembered to call me or did someone have to remind you?" "Well, momma told me to call you." "She DID?" "Yeah."
We talked for about 20 minutes. I told her to get to bed and then I talked to D11 for about 20 minutes. I told that I was planning on asking her mom if I could take them to the park on Saturday, since she has to work. I do have to get D11 to and from a Saturday math class that ends at noon. The wife had emailed me last week about it. Looks like I'll need her help the weekend I have the girls after all because I'll have to work that Saturday.
I told D11 to get to bed and talked to S14 for a bit. Asked how track was going. Found out he's running in his Converse so I told him that maybe we can go Saturday and get him some running shoes. He has track shoes already, but needs running shoes, too.
I need to email the wife today and ask her if she needs me to get D11 to the school or if I just need to pick her up from school. I was also going to thank her for reminding D7 to call me.
That really surprised me. I think that was nice of her to do.
I've been dying to play some pool and drink some beer. I don't care who I go with, but I'm going on Saturday night.
Who else is in?
Last edited by hopeful4her; 01/23/0903:45 PM.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
Checked in on Randy. He's in it up to his eyeballs.
Not a whole lot sitch wise for me. A lot going on at work. Last Thursday, my bank announced that it was going to layoff 1200 employees.
I'm about 90% sure my head will be on the chopping block this coming Thursday or Friday. Not withstanding a miracle, I will be out of a job. Probably get a severance package, but not a very good one I'm sure.
I've already gotten in touch with a client/friend that has a car dealership. He let me work for him around this time last year selling cars for some extra money. The wife had just gotten her current job, but we needed some extra money.
I'll be doing it full time now. Problem is that, because of the hours involved in it, I don't think I'll be able to have the girls like I currently do. I believe the lot stays open until 7 at night Monday through Friday. After closing, puting all the cars back into place, locking doors, so on and so forth, maybe leave at 7:30 or later. Then to pick up the girls, just to take them home to sleep.....
I don't want that for them.
The Good Lord has watched over me so far and I know He will continue to.
I've been keeping in touch with the wife. She worked this past Saturday. I had to email her last Friday to make arrangements for me to pick up the girls on Saturday. I had to take D11 to a math class in the morning and then pick her up at noon. I went ahead and pick both girls, spent time with D7, picked up D11 from school, went to a library, then a park where we hiked and explored.
They pooped me out. Like I told lwb, getting old is a bitch.
After getting them to the apartment, I went home and showered, sat and relaxed for a bit, watched a little tv and fell asleep on the sofa.
What an exciting evening.
On my email to the wife on Friday, I told her that cuts were coming and she emailed back that she would keep me in her prayers. We had a few emails back and forth on Saturday. That night, I didn't give her much of an opportunity to have me stay for dinner. Then again, she may not have been WANTING to invite me
On Suday, I missed church. I did some major cleaning at the house. Not much else to do because I'm not renewing my Directv. I also decided to cancel my home phone for now. The only reason I have it is for my dial up internet. Trying to save some money right now. The wife is in the same position. No cable, internet or home phone yet. I did upgrade my cell phone to include internet access, so I do have access to my emails and even FB. I just can't get on DB. My phone tells me it doesn't have enough memory.
After doing my cleaning, I decided to go see "Gran Torino". Excellent movie. Found out that the wife ended up taking the kids to a local park and also went to the Sunken Gardens. That is where we were married. They let our turtle go in the ponds there. At the end of the day, she called me and told me she was just starting dinner. She asked if I had eaten, invited me to eat with them, and I did. Again.
Like lwb told me, we're the same. Two peas in a pod. She had dinner with her ex Sunday night too. We'll learn someday.
I'll be in touch.
Say a prayer for me.
karen, you have FB mail.
Last edited by hopeful4her; 01/27/0908:39 PM.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
Praying for you H4H. What are Ws chances of keeping her job?
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
I will add you to my prayer list. My boys and I pray every night for people, half of them they don't even know, LOL. I believe that God will provide you with something that will not take you away from your kids too much!
Keep on postin'. 
The traffic I think. She ended the conversation. 
