For the Guy with Kids and a WW 23

[hopeful4her]

I TOLD you that they were in it deep. Like I said, they seem to be in it for the long haul.

For her, I think its about trying not to hurt my feelings, as much as she can. Trying not to shove him in my face. She has mentioned doing this before. I don't get the feeling its about being nice before the divorce. I think she does, without admitting it to anyone, including herself, hold onto me somewhat.

She may also be just as determined to keep a peaceful relationship for the kids as I am. Toward the very end, before she left, it was me trying my best to let her know that it was MOST important to me to keep our friendship no matter what happened. She's also told me that she would never take the kids away from me.

As for the neighbors, they just may be weird but not sure. It's possible that they're uncomfortable around me. I've met them before, the Sunday night the wife barbequed. We all sat and watched a move and ate. "Fred Claus" I think it was. She had gone grocery shopping during the day with them.

At this point, I'm doing well. Trying to detach myself more and more. I still think about her alot, but I suppose I will for some time to come. I have had to stop myself from forwarding emails. I've tried to stop doing things with her in mind. Just doing them for me or the kids. I've decided that I'll treat her as lovingly as I can, when we DO have contact. Like I said before, I've stopped trying to get her to realize anything. I can't do it, she has to do that herself. On the flip side, I don't plan on being her BFF either.

I've realized that she just doesn't want to be married anymore. I have to accept it and keep moving forward for me. I plan to squeeze as much fun out my life as I can.

And let my marriage die a peaceful death.