Heading down my own path

[mishka422]

I understand completely BBJ. I'm amazed that you have allowed him back into your home as many times as you have. My xH walked out 3 times and that was 2 times too many! I should not have allowed him anywhere near me again while I knew he was still so messed up and confused.

Protect yourself darlin'. Take care of the babies and let Dan completely spin in the wind. He has to do that. He has to have NO support from you whatsoever. No 'help'. That is the only way he will grow. You can have hope that he will grow enough to grow up and figure out what a true man of any character is supposed to do. It is possible.

It's easy to say, hard to practice, but you MUST close your heart and mind to him right now. Any chink in the armor will give him an opening to exploit your love for him. Dan seems like just the kind of man to do that continually to you because you allow it. Empathy and concern is all well and good until someone used it against you like Dan has.

I say all of this out of love and concern for you and your kids. You know it's not healthy for them either having Dan come and go whenever he gets the urge. He has set a piss-poor example of manhood for his son.

Love you girl! Chin up and chest out! You're awesome!