Quick hijack- Yes, Puppy, I want to know how you are doing, so please update us soon. You sound good. I'm guessing things are going well. Prayer changes everything, doesn't it? With God, everything is possible.
h4h- That's the big question....how is your W perceiving your actions? You know her best- What do you think? As an outsider, and putting myself in her shoes, If I were her I would think, "THings are pretty good. H is not being a complete jerk, he still is there for me when I need him, and I'm able to figure myself out."
Curious about the pictures being taken down or moved. The fact that she even had them shows me how deep her relationship is. She just didn't want you to know that. It's like she shows you one thing, talks about how she's not sure if OM will make her happy, how she stays home all the time, how she can take the kids if YOU want her to, etc......but then, in reality, she is having a full blown relationship with this OM, taking pictures, having him stay over, etc. The neighbors were uncomfortable so you know he is in the picture big time. The thing to think about is the fact that she isn't showing you her real life right now. Why is that? Either she doesn't want you to know because she holds on to you as much as you hold on to her, she doesn't want to lose all that you still give her, she doesn't want to shove him in your face out of respect, she is being nice until the divorce so you don't try to take the kids, or she is just playing out the fantasy of having two lives.
I don't think your last encounter with her was that bad. You should have stayed outside, said goodbye to the kids, and left. But, you did get more time with the kids and it was fun so I can see why you stayed. It's when you stay just for her or a meal that doesn't seem right at this time.
