Know this, and know it now. You have layed the foundation with your children of being their ROCK. Every game played together, every trip traveled together, every bath and getting dressed you helped with, every silly movie watched together on the couch...all those things are in your childrens minds. These things have become part and parcel of who YOU are for THEM.
Other people will enter their lives as they grow older. Some of these people will become very important to them. Teachers, neighbor friends, Sunday School leaders, coaches...
None of these other people will ever be DAD.
None of these other people will get the call in the middle of the night when they have a flat tire on the interstate...
None of these other people will get the call when their heart gets broken for the first time...
None of these other people will be sitting in the first row when they grow up and get married one day...
No my friend. YOU are not replaceable in their lives.
It is possible that one day your wife will be stable enough to have found a STABLE male to have in her life again. Perhaps even a full fledged relationship. And your children will meet him and eventually spend some time with him.
And it will KILL you at first.
But eventually you will reach the point that 25 talked about, and realize that GOOD people in their lives can NEVER be a bad thing. AND most importantly, you will KNOW in your heart that this person will NEVER replace you.
My boys have a biological mother who still loves them and cares for them. And they love her. But they also now have another woman in their lives, one who is not their true mother, but who loves them like a mother loves her children. They are told that they are loved, and they know that their father loves this woman with all his heart. Most importantly, they know that they can trust her, because their Dad trusts her.
They are doubly blessed FIB.
...and I'll just leave out similar accolades about their Mom's soulmate...
LOL.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
