Just catching up before I call it a night (or morning at this point)....and I wanted to second the kudos from AmyC and 25yrsmlc...I thought you did great in your interactions yesterday.
One thing I think you need to work on is how you "think" of your W. Maybe the "pity" term struck me wrong too....I think it would be near impossible to be attractive to somebody that you "pity".....you need to be thinking of your W the way God sees her....a precious, unique vessel that He created...with "flaws" AND talents that make her special! Why don't you mentally keep the list all the wonderful things about your W? Leave the "flaws" to God to repair....if He chooses! I have been in "churches" that teach men to look at women as somehow lesser. This is usually very subtle....but, it is VERY dangerous and downright WRONG! I bring this up because I think sometimes we bring these male/female role issues into our homes. Be careful not to paint your W with too broad a brush. I'm not suggesting that we all (your W included) shouldn't be held accountable for our actions and choices....but, I think it is mostly best to let God do the account-keeping....while we dig the planks out of our own eye!
Sorry for preaching....or whatever....it's late! Good night!
Praising God Daily, Remaining "FaithfulH" Me: 62 W: 62 D:33 S:30 & 31 Married: 40 Years BD: Sep 2006 Piecing: May 2007 2nd BD: May 2014 Working On It: Today
