Boy what a long strange trip it's been. I could not have picked a better title....
When I pick up my D tomorrow I am going to call the other one and arrange for a time to pick her up also. I want to tell them both at the same time. It will be hard to tell them but I think once I tell them. all of this stuff that I have held inside will be free. In a way it will be a relief. I do not know how they are going to take it. The oldest will probably be ok but the youngest will probably take it hard. At least when the family and friends start in asking questions I have nothing to hide. I will not say anything about the Affair just We tried for the last year to work things out but "Wife does not want to be married anymore" Ask Her.....
what a day to tell them huh .....Inauguration Day
The start of something new
Dr Love.
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
I'm confused, my understanding was that you were pushing the sep and the D because you don't want to be married to her anymore.
But in any case, what is the point of telling your Ds tomorrow? Are you officially separated yet? If not, I'm not sure how it helps to pull them into the drama other than reducing your stress. But there are other ways to get support...
Can you just let things be for awhile while you and W work out the separation? It seems like everyday you are trying to do something new to get a reaction from someone, W or someone close to her. These manipulations aren't going to cause W to get it and decide to warm your bed.
Finally, I guess you were making a wry joke, but I think it is a poor choice to tell Ds on Inauguration Day this year, especially if they were at all excited about the election. This could very likely be the most important inauguration day of their lifetime. For many, it will be a very moving and joyful day. Why risk infringing on that?
im not back because i have to be, just wanted to check in on all my friends.
That's great Kali, ya had me worried..
OT.
Twice last night I wrote a looooog response and then deleted them. I was not going to respond at all. IT WAS NOT A JOKE.
But I read an E-mail from Nikki and she did get me thinking. The only reason that I was going to tell D's today was because I had the opportunity, I was going to be picking up Youngest D who lives in the town I work in and bring her back to our town to see her friends. With all this stuff going on in my life the world outside has stopped turning, it does not really exist anymore. So I was not thinking of others. I will hold off telling them. Again unlike my wife I am going to take others well being ahead of my own and let my D's have this special day.(and son too).
Listen to the speech. I believe President Obama will talk about sacrifice and Talking RESONSABILITY for your own actions. Hope everyone has a great day
Doc.
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Have you separated your bank accounts and credit cards yet? If not, this is what you might want to do. It's a good first step. Even though she is currently financially dependent on you (since she doesn't have a job), this will encourage her to get one more quickly. It also makes the separation more solid which will help later on if you file for D. I think you can use it as a date of separation and will pay less alimony.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
Nikki gave me some things to think about. Have not said anything to D's yet. It is finely raining here... Son and I are still going camping this friday.Will talk with wife before then.
BTW... EVERYONE keep your fingers crossed. I bought my first Super lotto ticket... 53 millions dollars...
Doc
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
I'm glad to hear you are holding off telling the D's until you've thought is over more. There's plenty of time. And if/when the time is right you'll tell them. I don't think there should be rush on that. You have plenty more to do (like separate finances!).
It's raining here in the south as well. I hope things dry out a bit before you head out camping. I'm sure you and your son will have an awesome time! Life is great...
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
