What is going on and what help do you want? I read that you want some suggestions on 180 work but it is easier to help when you can be specific. Time is on everyone's side so don't worry. Change occurs over time and can't be rushed. Time allows for change. Staying together under the same roof can be rough because it doesn't allow for distance and quietude. To do 180 work you have to be able to know what behavior starts the negative stuff and change that behavior. How about starting a conversation with, we are both having a rough time - we need to make changes but we also may need time to figure out what changes to make. Can we agree to take the time to id the changes needed and come up with suggestions that we can live with at least for the temporary time. Then when things calm down some, we can agree to work more closely on one thing at a time until we need to. I would also like to ask you to make a list defining your thoughts and your emotions. Then ask yourself if they line up and make sense to you. If not, then ask yourself what could you do act in a way that is reflective of both your thoughts and feelings. Let me know if this helps or not.
