My contract says that alimony stops when I re-marry or cohabitate with a non-relative. Are you kidding, I wouldn't dare let them know if I re-married & besides I do plan on getting all of that alimony!!! Beginning April 1st of this year will be 1000. for 2 years. So, I can certainly wait about getting married for 2 more years. That just really made me mad!!! I'm sure she wrote that. He has been hand-writing the checks to me up until they moved to China & then they are going thru on-line banking. But at the end of my response, I did put a smiley face also!!
oh, I like the smiley face touch. ... and if you couldn't wait 2 years to remarry, I'd send you a 2 x 4 here. Yeah, um, make sure you keep them posted on your love life b/c we know how much she cares... yikes.
Didn't know they were in China. Keeps it stimulating I guess. Why are they there? Is it his work or hers that brings them there? Very foreign and hard for him to recall as much when they're gone, but then, he's on Mars anyhow...may as well look like it. j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
I'm not sure why they moved to China, they don't know that I know that. I called his work cell phone back in Nov. & it said he had quit his job, so I blocked my # & called their house, it had been disconnected, blocked my # again & called her work & they said she moved to China with her H. Not sure about all of it, his nor her work would have taken them there. I have a strong feeling that she insisted getting him away from everyone. It's not like him to move to China, he never has wanted to go there. So I don't have a clue!
all the more Martian of him to go there, then... j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Geesh, somebody (ow?) is anxious to have her share of $500 per month that would have gone to you.
Creep!
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
They must think that you are really stupid and would up and marry or co-habitate with a non-relative right now. Does that mean you can't rent out a room to a non-relative as well? Not that you would do it.
I'm still wondering about that China move. I think she's the one that pushed that little move. She wanted to ensure that he didn't have any contact w/you except email. She is so not sure of the situation.
You crack me up about the smiley face!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Thank you all so much for being my friends!!!! Yes, OW is very anxious to get her share of the 500. per month. You know, I believe she has done this before b/c an email that she sent to ex before we were separated said that she had to go back to work & make some money b/c she had been on vacation too long & she put 2 years! So, I feel this is what she does, gets someone who she thinks had money (which my H doesn't, never has never will) divorce them & get alimony or some kind of settlement. I'm not such but that's what I'm thinking. My H used to be smarter than this!!!
You are correct, I can't even get a roommate to help with expenses unless it is a relative. My lawyer put that in there b/c he didn't know if my parents would have to move in with me sometime.
I still wonder about the China move also & I truly believe it was her ideal, she may have seen he still loved me & if she got him out of the US that would get him away from everyone, memories, family & all. I'm just rambling here & I really don't know if what I'm saying is right or not, but thanks for listening. I do know his SIL told me that OW rushed the marriage b/c she saw he was still vulnerble. But, you just don't forget someone you loved & cared about so deeply at one time, or I wouldn't think you could!
Oh, I forgot. I'm sure it was OW that sent email b/c when he was handwriting me the checks he would put on there 4 of 12 etc. so he knew the months he had to pay.
I thought about telling him in the email that I sent about our dog passing but he hasn't asked about them so I didn't & like I said it was from her anyway. He normally wouldn't sign his initials to me either. That would be to a guy friend, but not me.
Maybe you could let him know about the dog. You could email and act as if you know it's ow reading this, so say something like "please let xh know that 'dog" died recently and thought he'd want to know as "Dog" was a loving companion to both of us and if xh is interested in details, I'll send them." (or say "Dog" died peacefully if true, or the diagnosis and cause of death, etc'")
Add SMILEY FACE or SAD FACE depending on whether you are talking about the dog, or signing off with your new GAL attitude. what do others think of relaying the info that xh may appreciate, and in a way that reveals she knows OW is reading the emails, without saying it? j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
