Thank you all so much for being my friends!!!! Yes, OW is very anxious to get her share of the 500. per month. You know, I believe she has done this before b/c an email that she sent to ex before we were separated said that she had to go back to work & make some money b/c she had been on vacation too long & she put 2 years! So, I feel this is what she does, gets someone who she thinks had money (which my H doesn't, never has never will) divorce them & get alimony or some kind of settlement. I'm not such but that's what I'm thinking. My H used to be smarter than this!!!
You are correct, I can't even get a roommate to help with expenses unless it is a relative. My lawyer put that in there b/c he didn't know if my parents would have to move in with me sometime.
I still wonder about the China move also & I truly believe it was her ideal, she may have seen he still loved me & if she got him out of the US that would get him away from everyone, memories, family & all. I'm just rambling here & I really don't know if what I'm saying is right or not, but thanks for listening. I do know his SIL told me that OW rushed the marriage b/c she saw he was still vulnerble. But, you just don't forget someone you loved & cared about so deeply at one time, or I wouldn't think you could!
