Silva, and really all, I responded on your thread, but here's a good thought. You won't feel this way for ever. As a matter of fact, I guarantee that you will get little twinges in your stomach in the next week thinking about W.
No one can love someone that much, and just drop off the face of the earth. Silva, we are in the same place. Both of us done, and seen the door swing shut in our faces.
But as I said over there, and I'll say to everyone here: detaching is about US!
We deserve SO much better than this - would you work at a job where your boss ridiculed you? Would you eat at a place where the waiter made fun of you, and ignored you? What other place in life would you submit to humiliation, degradation, being insulted, and told you were worth less than cow manure?
I am committed to marriage, but I have stopped trying for my W - she needs to try for ME. I'm about 99% sure that we'll never be together again, but that's OK - I deserve better! I love her more than anything in this life, but I don't NEED her to love me.
Guys/Gals - stop the little pictures, stop the little texts, stop the little phone calls. Give WAS time without you - if they like it, then you'll know it's over, and the pain will start to recede. If they don't like it, maybe things will work out.
