H just texted D16 and said he was coming over tomorrow, early afternoon instead.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Oh my gosh Snodderly that is so right. I know that my h cannot really forget how horrible he feels I treated him. We had authorties involved as well, hence the restraining order h put on me, but it's amazing how he can't seem to understand what he put me through.
He can't make that connection, that my responses were from his behavior.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
I have not had contact with H since he was here on Sunday but even then, he knew he had created some distance with his you make me nervous speech.
My 16 year old said to me of course he is nervous, he is cheating on you. Everyone here is tiring from his lifestyle but the kids are not likely to say anything.
My daughter also commented that all he does is watch tv over there, over here.................
He is coming over today, early afternoon, he told D16, in a text yesterday.
Me--I will just do my own thing. Since I make him nervous maybe I will seem invisible to him.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
M, I wanted to give you a chuckle...remember when I received the two invitations to be on my xh's "friends" listing for myyearbook.com? Well, after reading nlt's response to an email she received today, I opted to try something myself on my xh. I sent him an email asking him if he meant to send those invitations or what. I said "let's suppose you wanted me to be on your friends listing. Why would you want me to do that when regular email works? What are you expecting from me?" I then proceeded to point out that if the other person living with him sent it, I didn't appreciate it nor the calls to my work and residence." I also pointed out that I find it odd that what little communication we've had since November seems to have ceased the calls altogether". Not more than 5 minutes later, he responded "I made a mistake and the system put in all of my email addresses and sent it out. I was trying to set up my friends so that I could locate my classmates. Sorry!!!".
What's funny....he's already on Facebook and Classmates.com. How many places to you need to set up to search for your classmates of more than 30 years ago?
I just died laughing at his poor excuse.
I do hope that you get a good laugh off of this one.
Hope everything is okay in your world.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
My husband must be in the land of weirdo's then because he admits he made mistakes, that our marriage was good, no problems, does not know why he had an A, but in the land of MLC, they are all over the place with statements.
Snodderly, that was funny. Thanks for sharing.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I seriously doubt that it was a mistake, but that's okay. I had a good laugh off of his response. Funny, he never responded to the first one I sent last Friday letting him know that I thought it had been sent to me by mistake. Got a very quick response when I asked what he was expecting from me.
Just goes to show, they are totally nuts in la la land and w/dear old Rip Van Winkle...he can't face his mistakes and most likely never will.
I just wanted to share this w/you because your h says some things sometimes that make you wonder, just like they all do and here mine has been on Mars for well over 9 years.
Got to laugh at their comments!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
i was cooking over the stove for the girls with my back toward everything and anything.
h walks in but i did not turn around and he never said a word to me. he goes right for the soda and then parks himself outside on the patio. he never spoke to anyone for at least 20-30 minutes.
finally, i just said hi and he said hi and that was it.
awhile later, i told him i would take D16 to her youth activity if he could pick her up and his response was "why me?" i was like what??? he always picks her up.
then i said that's okay, i will do it. then h said that he would take her and s18 could pick her up. i said i did not know but s18 said he would do that.
he seems really really pissy. maybe it is me sending negative vibes.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
You are not sending negative vibes... But God is probably sending some sort of other vibe.
My hubby was really kind of nasty the other day. He wasn't his usual "hi, how are you?" kind of self. A day later he dumps everything on me. Now he's back to his old sweet self. He just needed to talk and I'm so glad that it was me he talked to and not the OW. We still don't have the answers to our problems but hubby feels better.
Hopefully your husband will talk...it took my husband about 9 days to finally talk about some of the things that were bothering him. (I'm sure there is more to come.)
But God is probably sending some sort of other vibe.