Don't look back

[still hopeful]

You are doing well. Keep up your work. Stay focused on your plan. Control behavior and that will help you control the emotional aftermath of your sitch.

This is from my recent post elsewhere:

Today is another day of my moving forward in detaching emotionally and disengaging behaviorally from my XW. I congratulate me for not outwardly expressing my emotions to my XW. I know that soon, with my undying concerted effort, my emotions will catch up with my outward appearance of strength, calm and quiet assertiveness.

I, like you, am working on the behavioral issues. Calming the emotional issues inside will come, but come more quickly due to the behavioral experience of disengaging. For me, the mind controls the decisions to take action, and the action results in successful experience which allows us to detach emotionally. A vicious but necessary of moving forward with our lives.

The good news is that we men and women are good, not necessarily perfect, people who are striving to reconcile a failed marriage. The key here is to remind ourselves that we are NOT failures. We were simply involved in a M that failed. We must stop, sort, feel, heal and deal from what happened and what presently IS so that we will all be happy, healthy and whole.

You are amongst friends. Keep posting and reading. Keep growing and healing.

Tom