I'm pretty sure my H feels that way too b/c I haven't had a full-time job. He doesn't look at his moving out and the legal bills and improving his standard of living the past year (he deserves that and the OW you know) as contributing to a B. But the truth is he never even discussed $$ problems with me, b/c I def. want to help out the family as much as I can. When he finally did discuss it with me, he'd already been in a PA with the OW for a month and EA prob. for a long time. He said he didn't think I'd be willing to work stuff out. I think he just wanted to think that. The fantasy in their heads is different than reality. Karen
